St Louis, MO – “Disaster” – Cicero’s – May 31, 2000
The Vineyard was just what I needed and while I missed the boys as they drove away, leaving me at the airport, I was glad to miss three days of Missouri and “Roller Coster Haven.” While the band drank Pabst Blue Ribbon, my mama and I drank chai tea and curled up on her couch. Between her velvet throw pillows, she triaged to my shredded heart and we laughed between my tears. She taught me beauty secrets like “always put a streak of highlighter down the bridge of your nose to make it look slender” and “Use your taupe eyebrow pencil as a lip liner.” She toured me through old photo albums and we listened to sad songs and I wrote a few of my own. Mama absorbed my tears and brushed the hair from my forehead while I told her what a fool I’d been to fall for Sam.
At the end of Memorial Day, when I came downstairs, my overnight bag and a guitar full of new songs in hand, my mama was awake. Her hair was piled into a little spiky nest atop her sweet head. She greeted me in the kitchen, in her soft robe, a spatula in one hand and a plate of her famous shredded apple Swedish pancakes in the other. We ate with our hands. She poured me a giant glass of grapefruit juice and sang to me, my own lyrics to remind me just how strong and capable I am of getting through this. I hugged her and told her, because it’s the truth, that she’s the absolute best mommy in the world.
On the plane to meet up with the boys, I listened to one of the new songs I wrote and tinkered with its lyrics. It’s called Disaster.
Disaster
I broke my own heart
For the good of my pride
For my own piece of mind and
Left my soul deprived
Now there’s sleepless and sky and
my memories to ride and
A picture of you left on my bedtable side
You’re a distraction to my lonelieness
While I’m in ink jotted
On your “To Do” list
But there’s love in your words
And there’ll be one last kiss
Goodbye and I’ll miss you and
Whatever this is
Now out of this picture, you smile in my face and
The image of you bellow me, I’ll erase
Now I’m a disaster and you’re a disgrace
How funny that this should be “love”
There’s something about this pain
That makes me feel happy
Happy to feel anyting at all
I’ll listen to sad albums and
Cry all day long to
Get you out of my system
One more track then
I’ll move on
Now out of this picture, you smile in my face and
The immage of you bellow me I’ll erase
Now I’m a disaster and you’re a disgrace
How funny that this should be “love”
Missouri was a scorching 95° when I arrived. I shaved my legs in the airport sink (sorry, I know that’s gross) and slipped into some stage clothes in a stall feeling like some B-list superhero. I hoped the slip dress mom let me borrow would be appropriate attire for the heat but when I arrived at the club to reunite with the boys, the air conditioners were cranked to sub-Antarctica and traversing through two clashing climates for load in made me convinced I was catching a cold.
I remember one summer when Ben and I were kids, my dad took us out on the road and there weren’t enough bunk beds on the bus to accommodate both the band and two little kids. My dad set up a couple cots on the floor for us and being 6 and 9 we didn’t much mind camping on the floor of the bus. However, the AC was on full blast and my brother’s cot was directly in front of one of the vents. One morning, after a particularly long overnight drive from Pittsburgh to Illinois we woke to find half of my brother’s face frozen and as the day continued, it wasn’t thawing. The poor bugger couldn’t blink let alone take a sip of water without it dribbling out the left side of his mouth. Turns out, my brother had Bell’s Palsy. He spent the rest of the summer with one eye patch over his eye which I tried to make him believe made him look like a cool pirate.
The show went all right. Cicero’s is sort of a jam band gig. The walls are plastered with posters announcing coming bands named: “The Kind,” and “The Shwag,” etc. I don’t mean to stereotype the place. It was clean, (intensely) air-conditioned, had ultra-friendly employees, and filled up pretty nicely for a Wednesday night.
The best part of the show for me was catching up with the band in the green room (literally just a bathroom with black walls and a handwritten note on the door that read, ”Not a Public Restroom.”) Inside the “Not a Public Restroom,” of a green room we elbowed our way around empty gear cases crowding in with us like extra players waiting for show time. Kyle sat on the toilet and warmed up his wrists against an empty drum case, “Thrum thrum thrum.” While I washed my face I listened to Kenny’s excited retelling of each and every roller coaster they rode in my absence. Delucchi laughed at Kenny’s “wooshing” reenactment noises, reliving the experience through Kenny’s vivid retelling.
I was grateful to secondhand smoke their memories, to be getting ready to play another show, to be Sam-free going on one week now, and most of all, grateful (after 5-weeks out) to see Boulder on the horizon.
Sally,
Thanks for sharing your visit to mom’s house with us. The paragraph felt like a “word hug”, and I could almost taste the apple pancake!
Also – thanks for sharing the family photos. Sigh – your handsome dad! Looks like they had you in your own “hippy costume”! Was fun to see Mona again, and also the photo with your grandma, Trudy! Guessing the big kid in the photo was, in fact, Sweet Baby James, the famous nephew!
Glad to hear Sam was fading out and looking forward to hearing about someone new filling your big, generous heart!
-Cindy
What a Beautiful Song 💖🎶 Disaster 💖🎶
The best song writing broken heart retreat ever 🎶😪💘..with mum in the Vineyard…gathering a thousand pieces of your broken heart to collaborate creativity with love 💞👭💞😊🙏🎶👍
Thankyou Sally 🤲💖🎶
Thank you SueAnn,
I’m pretty proud of turning that broken heart into an album. Disaster is one of my favorite songs I’ve writen. It’s very raw. I still feel the cuts and bruises in it.