Hollywood, CA – “Something to Prove at The Troubadour” – October 20, 1999

Letter from Kenny on the road. Proof we all need a mini-break from time to time on the road

After the show in Santa Barbara (where I’d narrowly missed being assaulted in an alleyway), a two-day break was exactly what the doctor ordered.  The whole band was itching for some R&R and after a late night loading out under a yellow flickering street lamp, we each went our separate ways for a mini-break.  Kipp and I fluttered back down the coast to LA for a romantic getaway on our film producer friend Geyer Kosinski’s couch.  Geyer always puts us up when we’re in LaLa Land claiming he doesn’t mind stepping over my guitar case to get into his kitchen.  Despite the lack of privacy, it was blissful to swim in Kipps beefy arms and sleep for hours against the cool leather of Geyer’s couch.

On a hot and sticky Wednesday night, Santa Monica Boulevard snaked Kipp’s silver rental towards West Hollywood. I couldn’t tame the butterflies dancing in my stomach.  Even after a shot of tequila at the bar and a sandwich Brian and Kenny made me eat in the dressing room, I was still a wreck.  My mom and dad have banked so much history in The Troubadour’s dark electric walls, it’s impossible not to feel I have something to prove.  To make matters worse, this time, we were headlining.

By nine the house was packed— a noteworthy feat for a Wednesday night in October which I attributed to Kipp and Geyer’s shameless promotion. Our opening act was a trio out of Vancouver who, unable to secure a US work permit before the gig, were forced to leave Canada with nothing but the clothes on their backs and rent some cheap musical equipment when they landed in LA. The lead singer, Kristy Thirsk, was a pretty little thing with red manic-dyed streaks in her hair.  She wore a tiny vintage lace dress with platform combat boots. Fifteen minutes before she took the stage, Kristy dashed into our dressing room with a panicked expression and some caked-on eyelash glue drowning her left lashes.

Kenny & Brian making sandwiches in the Troubadour’s heavily graffitied greenroom

“I can’t get this one on!” She panicked in my direction. I thought she might cry.

“Let me see,” I said inspecting the gluey webbing mess on her eye.  With a motherly touch, I led her down the hall to a heavily graffitied bathroom.

“Want me to fix it?” I asked. She shook her head yes and closed her eyes.  I plucked the metallic pink lash from her dainty white fingers and pushed it into the cobweb of ropey glue all the while reassuring her, “Don’t worry, I used to be in a disco band.”

“Thanks,” she said leaning into the frosted mirror, staring at her reflection between a multitude of penises etched into the glass.  She sighed, covered her lids with glitter, and like a pro, grabbed her ax and took the stage.  She rocked!  Emily and Carols, the second act, were great as usual.  We’d played with them our first time at The Troubadour — the time my mom and brother surprised me on stage—you know, the best night of my life.

Mom surprising me on stage at The Troubadour

Although nothing will ever top that first gig, last night was outstanding. I’ve always dismissed LA and NY as jaded, where people seem disinclined to see live music unless there’s something in it for them. But last night I changed my mind. People listened to the music. They watched intently. They weren’t scanning the crowd for famous faces or industry leaders who might elevate their careers. They were there to have fun and enjoy some live music. Needless to say, this made me very happy.

After the show, Emily and Carols insisted we go to a dive bar around the corner for tequila shots. The boys (who would have followed Emily to hell and back) went out, but Kipp and I were tired, and Geyer’s couch was calling.

Outside, on a grimy, early-morning curb, littered with cigarette butts, Brian and I walked east on Santa Monica Boulevard (he to the bar, me to Kipp’s car).  Looking down the row of lights lining the avenue he asked “How much further does this street go?”

“To New York,” I said slipping my capo into my front pocket, throwing my guitar case into the back seat, and hopping into the passenger side of Kipp’s car. Blowing Brian a kiss out the window, I pulled into the empty early morning street.  The strands of lights in the distance turned into a dazzling necklace.  I was asleep before the last star removed its pinprick from the sky.

Santa Barbara, CA – “Danger” – Rocks – October 17, 1999

It was one of those perfect days for a drive up the Pacific Coast Highway, the kind where the ocean sparkles like a thousand paparazzi at a red-carpet event. Kipp picked me up at our hotel in Venice with his trademark grin and a “bitchin'” silver Chevy rental. The plan was to meet up with the band at the venue for a 5 pm sound check. Delucchi drilled it into my head not to be late as Kipp and I peeled away from the group to make our way up the coast solo.

When we arrived at the gig, the place looked more than a little deserted—boarded-up windows, a front door plastered with old newspapers, and an entranceway littered with empty green beer bottles. As I stood on the foot of the stairs, squinting at the venue’s sign, I called Brian on his cell phone. No answer. I left a message, “Hey Bri, it’s Sally. I’m outside the club, and it’s totally dead here. Are we playing somewhere else? I hope?!?! Where are you guys?”


Just then, I noticed a guy walking towards me. He had the overly confident, frat-boy swagger and the stench of testosterone coming off him was almost palpable. My pulse raced. I hung up and started walking with what I hoped looked like an equally confident stride, towards the alley where Kipp had parked. His back was to me in the driver’s seat but I could see he was still there, fiddling with something on the dashboard. The frat guy followed me, his footsteps growing louder and faster. “Hey, where you going?” he grunted. I ignored him, picking up my pace. “Hey, where you going?! I think you need to bring those legs over here!”

He was almost on me when Kipp opened the door and stepped out of the car. His innocent smile turned serious as he took in the situation. The guy took one look at Kipp (who looks like the Mr. Clean mascot caricature from the detergent label) and bolted, leaping over a fence at the end of the alleyway. My heart was pounding a drum solo. Kipp wrapped his arms around me, and I shivered but didn’t cry. I felt angry. It’s exhausting on the road, to be on guard all the time from potential danger. I believe that people are mostly good, but it only takes one asshole and you never know who they’ll be of where they might show up. While trust serves me well most of the time, I know it’s an expensive quality to own as a woman. I allow myself the luxury of it because of an event in the summer of ’97.


I was alone in my house on Matha’s Vineyard late at night and drifting off to sleep when I heard my bedroom door creak open. I slept with the windows open and assumed it was the wind, but when I looked up, there was a man silhouetted in my doorway not three feet from my bed.


Surprising to both of us, I jumped to my feet and shouted “WHO IS THAT?!?!” The confidence in my voice scared him and he turned on his heels. I ran after him through my living room. Every move we made felt like it was in slow motion. I chased the intruder out the door, onto my porch, and halfway down the stairway as he flew down the steps into the night.

Having lost him, I ran back in my house and locked the door behind me. Then, worried he might not have been alone, I called the cops and they stayed on the phone with me until someone arrived. There was no one else in the house luckily. The cops took fingerprints and called a few days later to assure me they’d caught the culprit. He’d been found sneaking into one of my neighbor’s beds where she’d been asleep with her daughter. He’d tried to rape her. The man was in custody and wouldn’t be bothering me anymore they said.


What I learned about myself that night is that when a man shows up at my door intending to rape me in the middle of the night, I’m someone who instinctually jumps out of bed and runs them out of her house. Believing that I have effective instincts that might save me in times of danger is the valuable commodity that affords me to have trust in humanity. What I learned that night in Martha’s Vineyard is that as a woman, I’m a target. Staying vigilant is imperative for me. But I also learned I can trust my instincts in a crisis and that is invaluable.

I’m happy to report Kipp and I were at the wrong venue and that when we arrived at “Rocks,” it was a stunning venue/restaurant. Life on the road is a wild ride—full of strange, hilarious, and sometimes scary moments. But it’s all part of the adventure.

Los Angeles, CA – “Portrait of a Day” – Santa Monica Pier, CA – October 16, 1999

Drive, Drive, Drive.
Eat, Eat, Eat.
Sleep, Sleep. Play, Play.
Drive, Drive, Drive.

Once you get south of San Francisco, California truly transforms into a desert. The land no longer flows or sways; instead, it crumbles and stammers into the sea which devours it with smashing, white, ravenous teeth. We drive down the falling coastline, singing along to Bob Marley. We belt the words we know, and the rest turns into joyful gargles:

“One love, one heart, let’s get together and feel alright…
Lehmenpassalltheredirty remarks, One Love…”

It’s another sunny day spent inside the van. I feel like a mouse stuck in its hole. It’s broiling hot, so the AC goes on. Then it’s glacially cold, so the AC goes off. With hardly any traffic, we make it to Santa Monica well ahead of time. Brian grabs his rollerblades, Kenny heads out for sushi, and the Chrises and I take a stroll down the infamous Santa Monica pier.


We weave through crowds of tourists — in and out of pockets of bubbles, and busker’s music. They strum barely recognizable covers of Jimmy Buffett and Tom Petty on old rusty strings and litter their yawning cases with spare change to entice similar company. We stop to watch an impressive balancing act—a small, muscular Asian man doing a handstand on his equally muscular girlfriend’s shoulders. They’ve got an old-school ghetto blaster that’s playing 80’s jazzercise music. They end each pose with a theatrical flourish and avian flapping. Toward the end of the pier, young men are fishing. Their pants sit low to reveal the tops of their underwear and their flat-brimmed baseball hats perch well above their brows as if floating by some magic.


Tonight, I’m opening solo for Venice. Kevin Nealon, the actor/comedian, is here and reminds me he was at my first solo gig in Telluride for the ’96 Bluegrass Festival. I recall that night, how I’d sat on a wobbly stool and played my little half-baked tunes with a voice that came from the most frightened part of my body. Kevin remembered it as great, which I tell him is kind of him to say.

Tonight when I take the stage, I close my eyes, take a deep breath, and open my mouth. What comes out is a voice that is wiser, bigger, and taller than the one I had back in 1996’s Telluride. It’s the first time I’ve recognized how much the road has grown me. It has broken me, built me back up, and made me stronger than I thought I ever could be.

I am grateful I am willing to do hard things. I am grateful for the road.

Mill Valley, CA – “How’d you Look?” – The Sweetwater – October 15, 1999

Ah, the lushness of the wine country. The sky is a skirt, that teases the ground with its lacey, foggy hem. Logging trucks thunder by on switchbacks, bouncing their open cargo. I can’t help but see the trunks as bodies and ruminate with outrage and guilt about the tragedy of human greed.

Mill Valley was sunny and warm when we arrived midway through a Friday, midway through October, on the cusp of a new West Coast tour. The entire population of Mill Valley (both men and women) are unreasonably handsome. I watched them out the back of Moby strolling in white shorts and stiffened collars. I saw them pretend to window shop as an excuse to check themselves out in storefront reflections. It made me laugh out loud and recall walking New York City streets with my dad in my adolescence. Whenever he’d catch either my brother or me checking ourselves out in a window, he’d whisper cheekily, “How’d you look?” and, busted, we’d all get a good chuckle.


Let me just say, for the record—no one treats artists as well as Sweetwater does! Tom, Sweetwater’s owner, greeted us at the door with open, heart-quenching hugs and insisted on feeding us mountains of gourmet food. Backstage, the boys watched a game on TV in one curtained-off half of the green room, while I sank into the vastness of a red velvet couch in the other half and worked on a new tune about my time on the Colorado River.



When our opener, Matt Nathanson managed to get the audience to do a sing-along to Bon Jovi (of all things) we knew we’d have a great gig. We were not wrong. The house was packed. There was no room to stand and no place to sit either. We lit up that stage like a bonfire. Sometimes, I’ll admit, that when performing, I try to cut songs from the set mid-show. I get feeling bad for the audience that they have to stay out so late and listen to my music and clap for each song and I get thinking to myself, “These people probably wish they were at home, in bed. You’re torturing them, Sally. They don’t want to be here; you’re holding them hostage with your music. Get off stage as fast as you can and give these people a break!” But last night, those thoughts burned up in the stage light. We were one with the audience and no one wanted to go home, especially not me. It was a magical fall night.

Thank you, Sweetwater. Thank you, Tom. Thank you, October. Thank you, black cow in the golden field. Thank you leaves for your selfless, colorful sacrifice. Thank you all so very much for a great first gig of the Roadrunner Tour.

Portland, OR – “The Ghosts of Songs” – St. Johns – October 13, 1999

The drive to Portland took longer than expected on account of a full roster of interviews we’d lined up. I set a reminder 15 minutes prior to each call and tapped Delucchi when an alarm would sound, leaving it up to him to find a rest area equipped with a pay phone. Occasionally, it was easy — a payphone just materialized out of thin air. More often, it was a wild dash to the nearest exit, sometimes as much as 40 miles away, and beggars couldn’t be choosers. Some of the places I did my interviews from were borderline dangerous.

I did a radio interview inside a bar called “The Point of Rocks” in Wyoming, where two men (one with no teeth) stared hungrily at me the whole time, a fly buzzed, motorcycles pulled up and pulled away, a red sign read “SANDWICHES: HAMBURGER,” an overweight, freckled waitress laughed so hard she splashed whisky all over her swollen hand, a dog panted its way through old age and I hung on to the phone, to the voice at the other end as though I might need to ask it to hang up and call 911 on my behalf at any point.


The folks at St. John’s were sweet and slightly overly enthusiastic to have us there. We ate cobb salad, drank October ale and picked at a hummus platter before sound check. The venue was once a church. It was appropriately infused with candlelight, tear-drop chandeliers and warm tapestries. But somewhat out of place were the Halloween-inspired spider webs (creatively recycled, they told us, from last year’s discarded Santa beards) and the audience of lifeless dear heads mounted on walls. I could have sworn that some of them sang along with the songs and bopped their heads to the beat of Brian’s thud. But every time I looked up at them, they played dead.

Some nights, like last night, I can feel the spirits of my songs possess my soul. They enter and move me to execute their will, the way a character might haunt an actor playing a role. I feel them like a saltwater tickle in my chest. They fill my facial expressions and use my gestures to deliver their message. When a song ends they drift away like distracted children. I like to think they watch the rest of the show from shadows beneath people’s chairs and stealthily move into places where the audience has let the lights go down in their hearts. I imagine the ghosts of my songs working behind the scenes to open windows and doors and new avenues into people’s minds — allowing fresh possibilities into their souls. That’s what songs do best.

Eureka Springs, AK – “Tattoo Wedding Parlors and Mud Masks” – The Ozark Folk Festival, Day 2 – October 9, 1999

Fuzzy showed up at 9:30 on his portable car phone. It’s rare to see him without it, except when the signal drops on a bend or a bridge. During those times, he lets out a frustrated “dambdamb damnit!” He runs his entire taxi operation from his car he apologetically explains, “I’m the driver, dispatcher, and accountant for this whole taxi enterprise. But that also means I can do anything I want!” he said “I even pick up hitchhikers from time to time.” He parked under the shoe tree where, he insisted, the reception was best. Plugging one ear and closing his eyes, Fuzzy booked his next client before driving us into town.


Eureka Springs is certainly unique. Almost every store offers weddings—The Tattoo Parlor doubles as a marriage parlor, and The Cigar Shop wants to marry you and gift your new husband a free stogie. We walked by an “Old Time Photo” studio that, unsurprisingly, also functioned as a wedding parlor. Their window was full of framed photos —newlyweds dressed in 19th-century hooker and gangster garb sporting new rings and casual attitudes toward marriage. It seemed, in Eureka Springs, people were getting hitched just for the fun of it, or for the perks like a free sepia picture or cigar. Walking by the Tattoo/Marriage Parlor, I couldn’t help but point out the irony of permanent inkings juxtaposed against loosely tied knotings of matrimony. Ravenous, we looked around for a place to eat that wouldn’t unintentionally turn into a wedding ceremony.


A woman passing by stopped us. “My husband and I loved your show last night,” she said, beaming through thick glasses and a Southern accent. Suddenly, we were celebrities. People were coming up to us, complimenting our performance. “I heard your show last night was great,” said a man poking his head out from his barbershop. “I love your voice,” said a teenage girl walking by with her friends. And it struck Soucy and I at the same time —a thousand people in attendance at our gig the night before meant we’d played in front of more than ½ the population of Eureka Springs.

Just as we were about to give up on lunch, a small-hipped, wide-eyed brunett woman ushered us into her café, “Mud Street,” for a bite assuring us she wouldn’t marry us and insisting she feed us a free meal, She’d loved our show. Everyone stared and whispered as we walked in. Lisa sat us down and poured out two piping hot cups of coffee. The steam curled up in cat tail-like rings around our chins. Exaggeratedly, I widened my eyes at Chris so as not to be overheard and said, “Remind me to move to Eureka Springs for a week if I ever need to feel famous.”


Drunk on town people’s love, we wandered up the street after our free meal, to the arts fair. Face painters glued glitter on children’s bright eyes and cheeks, drum makers showcased their instruments, and dancers in mirrored Indian skirts spun to the drone of a a sea of didgeridoos. Bubbles floated through the crowds, dodging feet and children’s eager hands. Chefs in stained aprons flipped steaming meat which sizzled and hissed and surrounded us in plumes of sweet-smelling sausage and bell pepper. Astrologers offered tarro readings, and half the people who passed grabbed our arms to say, “We loved the show last night.” Eureka Springs felt like the backdrop of a fairytale. I could have swam in that velvety joyous environment all day but Chris and I had a show to prepare for.

We showed up punctually, guitars in hand at The Old Ballroom. But the sceen was chaotic. The stage manager hadn’t showed up, and the sound man, arriving late, admitted when he got there, “I’ve never worked with this sort of board before.” When we took the stage, he proceeded to send blood-curdling shrieks of feedback through the room and people clutched their ears and stared around at each other uncomfortably. After the third shriek, I pushed the mic stand away, unplugged my guitar, and addressed the obvious. “OK,” I said, “I came to sing for you, not to have equipment scream at you so If you don’t mind, let’s all bring our chairs up close to the stage. I’m gonna do this one acoustic.” From then on the night turned around. The sound man got drunk, and the audience, no longer in danger of being deafened, appreciated the rest of the show.


Back at the Land-O-Nod, Chris and I opted out of returning to town to see “Rice and Beans,” a band led by a pretty Asian keyboardist. Instead, we put on green mud masks, opened a bag of chips, a gourd of salsa, and a bottle of red wine. I unwrapped two plastic cups from the bathroom sink, and Soucy poured generous servings. We switched on Wild Discovery—something about tornadoes—and settled into our “honeymooner’s suite,” king-sized bed. Before long, the room was a mess. I kept dropping dollops of salsa on the colorful comforter, and Chris spilled a full cup of wine on the carpet. In a panic, he stripped down to his underwear and socks and danced around in circles doing a make shift chacha atop a wet towel in an attempt to remove the stain. I laughed until I choked because he looked so ridiculous in his cracking green clay mask, undies, and pulled-up black socks. He laughed too.


The next morning, Fuzzy brought us to the airport. He carried our luggage all the way to our gate, and hooked us up with free massages right there at the terminal (courtesy of a therapist who happened to be one of his drivers). But, though he was no doubt the best taxi driver we’d ever had, he refused to take our money. “I don’t need it,” he said, strutting away like a cowboy. He turned one last time on the descending escalator to wave and smile goodbye. See you next time, Fuzzy. See you next time, good buddy.

Eureka Springs, AK -“The Mayor Got Us Stoned”- The Ozark Folk Festival, Day 1 – October 8 & 9, 1999

Wrapped in a green flannel Patagonia jacket, I futilely clenched my abdominal muscles against the cold. My front porch was quiet in the dark, chilly morning. To distract myself from the chattering of my teeth, I played a game, counting down how many seconds it would take Delucchi and Soucy to turn onto my street. Each of my prediction was wrong. I left my guitar on the porch and went inside to top off my coffee. Chris Soucy and I were booked to fly east alone to play the Ozark Folk Festival. No rhythm section, no Delucchi, and no clear idea of what to expect from Arkansas, aside from southern heat and fields of blond wheat. Our 6 a.m. flight out of Denver meant a 4 a.m. wake-up call. By the grace of God, Delucchi, the angel he is, volunteered to drive us to the airport Just as I was sure Delucchi had overslept and was dialing his number, I heard his voice call from outside, “Sally Taylor, Paging Sally Taylor, Please come to the white courtesy van.”

When we arrived in Arkansas, a skinny cat with a cardboard sign and a dirty chauffeur’s cap was waiting for us. He said his name was Fuzzy and he’d be our driver this week. Fuzzy was aptly named. His hair bunched and bucked like a rearing bronco trying to separate itself from his scalp. He wore blue jeans and a blue shirt and walked with bowed legs that looked like parentheses attached by a belt. I liked him immediately.

American Airlines had given me a hard time about carrying on my guitar and, as I’d feared, sent my poor instrument on a wild ride. The brown leather case was stripped like it had a run-in with a bear and the “fragile” sticker they assured me would protect my precious cargo, was mangled like something someone tried, unsuccessfully, to remove from the bottom of their shoe. Luckily, upon examination, the instrument itself was unharmed. Sarcastically, I peeled the fragile sticker off my guitar case and pasted it on my chest with a frown before jumping into Fuzzy’s rusty van.

We were booked at the Land-o-nod Inn and scheduled for a sound check at five but first, Fuzzy wanted to give us a tour of his town. Our first stop was The Shoe Tree on Highway 187. “Once a woman threw her husband out of the house and in a fit of anger he threw one of his shoes in the air and got it caught up in that tree.” Fuzzy had no doubt told the story a hundred times and gave it to us as though it was his first, “As time went on, more and more shoes showed up in the tree until it became a thing of pride for the town of Eureka Springs. Now, local kids take their old sneakers, draw their initials on them, tie the laces together, and try to heave them onto the highest branch for posterity.” But as often as shoes fall up, they fall down. “People, fallen on hard times, come to The Shoe Tree for their sneakers. They fall like ripe fruit from the branches and I do mean ripe!” He laughed.

The Shoe Tree


He drove us through winding mountainous green roads into sunny Eureka Springs. The town was a color explosion. Rainbow murals met every view. Artists in tie-dyed shirts worked on tie-dyed easels off Main Street. “This town used to hold 20,000 people in the late 1800s. Now there’s only 1,900 folks living here,” he said, waving out the window to one of the 1,900. “People moved here around the turn of the century because the water was said to have magical healing properties, and there were all sorts of miraculous recoveries documented by those who bathed here. Turns out, the water they were soaking in was radioactive; still is today. But people with cancer and some other diseases were benefiting from the radiation,” he laughed. “After a fire burned the town down, most people left. Now it’s mostly a tourist town. A hippie tourist town,” he added, pointing and waving to the mayor, a man in his 40s ‘Beau,’ with a long mane of black hair tied back in an elastic who’d later insist on getting us stoned after the show.


I had no idea we were one of only three headlining acts for the festival until I was backstage checking out the merch. I was looking at the back of a shirt, squinting at the artists’ names in the fine print. “I guess we didn’t make the schwag,” I announced to Soucy, who in turn said, “What are you talking about? You’re the third name down there in huge bold print underneath Leon Russell and John McEuen from the Nitty Gritty Dirt Band.” “What?!?!?!” I felt honored and humbled.

That night we opened for Leon, who put on a great and soulful show. He looked like a miniature snow-capped mountain. I must admit I felt a little nervous about playing by myself before the sold-out audience. But, as they say, “What doesn’t kill you”… and actually, once I got out there, the butterflies tucked themselves into cocoons and went to sleep. Soucy and I had a blast. The night was wet but it didn’t rain. Mist flies bounced off tin awnings and into the oncoming car headlights. After getting stoned with the town mayor, Fuzzy drove us back to the Land-o-nod.

Nashville, TN – “Skunk Buddy & Other Humiliations” – 3rd and Lindsly – September 19, 1999

Eric Erdman agreed to drive up from Mobile to snuggle me for a night in Tennessee. Did I mention the road gets lonely especially surrounded by bandmates who are also lonely? It’s a relief to wake up in Eric’s arms in a private room of my own and with a greatly improved mood, I call down to someone named Mark at room service to order “Seven continental breakfasts please.” I want to surprise the band with breakfast and bonus checks. While we wait for Mark, Eric and I sit around in bathrobes, singing in harmony to radio hits he strums on his Taylor guitar. When two carts of continental breakfasts arrive, Eric and I push them together through the 17th-floor hallway to the elevator. I don’t bother changing out of my oversized t-shirt and rainbow socks or removing the football-like black mascara from under my eyes. “We’re only going up 6 floors,” I retort when Eric suggests I put on some pants.

But apparently, you need a room key to access floors above floor 22 which I did not know and so instead of going up we’re redirected to the lobby. There, a suit-wearing businessman joins us. We smile. He scowels. I try, unsuccessfully, to hide my legs behind the white tablecloth. When he exits on the 22nd floor we follow him with our trays and I call Delucchi from the courtesy phone. “We’re stuck on the 22nd floor,” I whisper into the receiver while Eric cracks up behind his hands and people stare. When Delucchi fetches us he falls on the ground when doors open to reveal my vagabond ragged ponytail and rainbow socks. “Come on up,” he smiles compassionately.


The humidity is relentless when we arrive in Nashville. The hot, stagnant, air sinks into my bones as though I hadn’t any skin to protect me. We load in and meet the owners of 3rd and Lindsly who tell us the first 1/2 of our set will be broadcast live on a station called “Lightning 100” and that we should have a good show, as though it’s a demand, not an insight. We’re just glad it’s the last of the tour and I find my mind 1/2 way to Kansas already, as I try to engage in vague, detached conversations with people in the club.


We get food. Brian, who can’t, or just won’t, eat cheese and specifies this to the waiter, nonetheless, gets cheese on each and every course of his meal and frustratedly returns them for their proper preparation with a scoff.

My best friend from Boulder, Kate who now sadly, for me, lives in Nashville, shows up early and lifts our spirits bringing my mind back, temporarily, from Kansas for some much-needed girl chat in the walk-in/guitar closet/green room/hospitality the venue has provided. There’s a mirror on 2 of the three walls with some bald bulbs overhead that I constantly bump into while trying to change into a maroon top and black pants. Kate giggles and trys on my new Maybelline “Mauve Magic” lipstick.

There hasn’t been anywhere to shower since we left North Carolina 3 days ago and my hair is taking on a very dry, rat nest-like quality but the boys tell me I look all right (they’re the best) and we go on and straight into the radio show.


“No curse words,” they say, specifying…NO FUCK, SHIT, ASS or ASSHOLES but somehow I keep managing to fuck shit up and the radio DJ’s lips purse at each of my infringements. Nashville, what a place. It’s full of boots and business and tiny dogs with bandanas around their necks, and pancake make-up that looks like it would be painful to take off and might require a chisel. The air is seasoned with acoustic music with slide guitars and shooting stars and smoke filled bars with denim lights left on all night.


“I’m just assuming there’s no one in the record business out there in the audience,” I joke into the mic. Half the hands in the room go up. “Good,” I say “This next one is about people in the record industry. It’s called Strangest of Strangers.” The night flows with me poking fun at the audience, who eventually turn their crossed arms into hugs.


The rain holds out just in time to drench us at load out. I talk to a guy about a possible PBS special and a songwriter about touring logistics. I change back into jeans and sneakers in the mirrored closet and collect the measly $25 bucks the venue gives me for the gig. I leave out back door into oven-like, post-rain heat. Delucchi is hanging out of the back of the van rearangeing instruments to accommodate Brian’s departure in the morning to meet up with The Freedy Jones Band in Chicago to finish out their dates. He made good on his promise to me to prioritize my tour over theirs and though there were some gigs I had to cancel, I can’t overemphasize my gratitude he kept his commitment to finish this tour with me. I know most likely he’ll be moving on after this. I know it’s the last time we’ll crate “Fat Amy,” his red drum case, into Moby’s trunk and I pat the side of it with deliberate affection.

I’m not looking forward to finding a new drummer to replace Brian and recognize the moment as the end of a chapter. What better way to commemorate it than with him passing the torch? The last to drink the skunky Budweiser mascot “Skunk Buddy,” Brian needs to ritualistically pass it to me, the latest recipient. It is time for me to take the plunge and drink the hot, disgusting, cooler rat of a beer and I swallow hard.


Tiny flints of rain pass like ferries between us in the yellow street light. Delucchi films as Brian, holding the very angry beer, asks me to acknowledge I’ve made the biggest blunder this tour “I have,” I admit, and to accept the brown labeled award as my prize. “I do,” I say ceremonially. I take it, open it, smell it and swig. It tastes beer-ish but also like red meat and wound up fists. I drink it like a pro though and don’t spit it out the way those before me have (wimps).

Atlanta, GA – “Mommy’s Touch” – The Variety Playhouse – September 18, 1999

Someone woke me up with a mommy’s touch. The subtle rubbing and gentle rocking of a loving hand was caressing my back and I lay silent, semi-conscious, floating a single layer above the surface of my dreams, enjoying the loving call to a new and glorious day.

Like most days, I had no idea where I was. Usually, when I wake up I go through a checklist:

  1. “Am I alone?”
  2. “Am I safe?”
  3. “Where am I?” This is when I start a process of elimination. I consider all the places I could be until I settle on the most likely option (I am often wrong). Next, I move on to other, less important questions for example: “What time is it?” “What day?” “What’s the weather?” “Did I bookmark before I fell asleep?” etc.

Today, after confirming questions 1. Answer: No. and 2. Answer: Most likely Yes, I relinquished the rest of the list and gave into the possibility that I might be everywhere and nowhere and it didn’t even matter as long as the tender motherly back rub continued. Eventually, I cracked my eyes open and placed their blurred, sleepy gaze on some wildflowers in a vase, limply gesturing an innocent scent in my direction. Their pastel yellow, purple, and green blurred across the whiteness of an adjacent pillow cover. A mug of coffee sat on a nightstand. From its lip, steaming phantoms danced through the autumnal chill of the room. The back rubbing continued. Had my mommy flown out to visit me on the road? Excitedly I rolled over on my back to find Soucy was the source of my early morning massage. Soucy had brought me flowers, a coffee, and a motherly touch and in the childlike state I was in, I reached my arms up into the sky, where he appeared to be hovering, and I embraced him as the rest of the boys, in unison, shouted: “Kiss ass!”


I shucked peanuts and drank yerba mate tea on our ride from North Carolina to Atlanta. The Variety Playhouse was just as it had been on our last loop around the country 3 months ago. We were opening for Christine Lavin who couldn’t have been sweeter or funnier.


Someone named Karen who insisted she was a friend of Marji’s (from the Walden School) talked her way backstage. She’d been reading the Road Journals and showered us with “inside joke” gifts. She gave Soucy a teddy bear dressed up as a bee (for his Bee Dance back in Media, PA) and she gave me a stuffed skunk (Knowing that I’ll be the recipient of Skunk Buddy at the end of this tour.


The show was sort of unmemorable. We left at 10 to grab Mexican food up the block. The night was warm and windy. As we approached the restaurant, a painfully drunk man with a wig that read as road kill, stopped us.

“I’m trying to get to the next town over and now I… now I… I’m not asking for a ride, I’m not a hitchhiker,” he slurred, “I just need .68 cents. I wouldn’t ask if I didn’t reallllly need it.”

Delucchi fished in his cargo shorts pocket and offered the man a buck before ushering us through the restaurant doors. The man was there as we came out and approached us again with the same appeal:

“I’m trying to get to the next town over and now I… now I… I’m not asking for a ride, I’m not a hitchhiker. I just need .68–”


“Hey man, we just gave you a buck an hour ago,” Delucchi said.
“Oh Oh Oh…was that you?” He secured the road kill wig with one hand and stumbled off apologizing.

His crazy energy added a new neon to the damp air and I felt overly aware of being a woman in a city. Conscious of the way my sweater gripped my breast and the grip with which I held my purse. With a shutter, I held myself in like a hermit crab sensing danger. There was something sad and empty and yet invigorating about Atlanta at night. As we strolled back to Moby, I watched a mother stick her young daughter’s hand under her armpit to light a cigarette. I saw a fat shirtless man wince inside a tattoo parlor whose doors stood open like a yawn to the night. I smelled asorbital and honey and hard liquor. I heard cats me-yowl like ghosts down alleys with flickering lights and overflowing trash bins. I’m not a city person. I’m just not.

Charlotte, NC – “The Blair Witch Project” – The Great Aunt Stella Center – September 17, 1999

The Great Aunt Stella Center is a church and a beautiful one at that, full of light, stained glass, pews, echoes, and a plush red carpet. I rushed to grab our video camera to record its magnificence but as I opened Moby’s trunk, Chris’s pastel blue coffee press flung itself out at me like an exuberant participant at a surprise party and crashed to its demise at my feet. I was in shock, filming the disaster, when I heard Delucchi shriek from behind me, “N O ! ! ! ! !”

I whipped around in time to catch his distressed, palms-to-cheeks expression. We held a quiet band memorial for the press over the bathroom trash can. I apologized to Chris for my part in the tragedy. He said it was all right, but I knew it would be a while before he got over the loss of his old friend.

Every day I’ve known him, Chris has followed the same morning ritual—first gas station of the day, while Moby guzzles fuel, Delucchi “borrows” hot H2O and 5 paper cups from the station’s coffee center. What follows is a 5-10 minute wait whereby the rest of us clear the van of yesterday’s chip wrappers and apple cores. When Chris reemerges through the swinging station doors, it’s with his signature bouncy step, the sky blue coffee press held aloft like a trophy, and an exuberant “Who wants black juice people?!?!” It was the end of an era and I felt terrible about causing it. I vowed to find him an even better press.


The venue couldn’t accommodate a full band so I’d agreed to do the opening act solo for David Wilcox. But I was nervous. I hadn’t played a gig on my own in a long time and didn’t want to make a fool of myself in front of David Wilcox’s audience. Soucy, watching me pace backstage, knitting needles in hand, agreed to join me for a few songs near the end. Still, I bit my nails to the quick in hospitality, picking at trays of fruit and chicken salad.


I donned my mama’s vintage skirt, sewing the ripped seam with dental floss with it already on. The skirt, I knew would bring me comfort. It’s something she used to wear for luck throughout her early career. The boys wished me luck from behind the organ and pushed me out into the pool of light on the stage.

As nervous as I was, I was delighted by how easy it felt once I started playing— akin to the first time I rode my bike without training wheels. After the fifth song, I announced cheekily, “Is there anyone in the crowd who knows how to play guitar and coincidentally, also knows all the chords to my songs?” At my rhetorical question, the audience laughed and Soucy flung his arms in the air like a crazed muppet, screaming, “Pick me! Pick me!” and rushed down the aisle like a contestant on “The Price Is Right.”


It goes without saying, that David Wilcox put on a GREAT show. I studied him on stage like an art student trying to capture the lines of a nude. His act was a work of fine, artful storytelling and soul-bearing music. I was captivated.


Some college friends of Soucy’s approached after the show and asked if we wanted to spend the night at their camp. I was game to save a couple of bucks on a hotel room and we agreed to follow their car out into the middle of nowhere down some mile-long, god-forsaken, briar-lined, back road that scraped Moby’s paint like nails on a chalkboard.

Mike and LG’s camp was an actual camp! complete with tire swings, a pond, a pool, volleyball nets, and cabins with creaky slanted floors. We were so far off the grid that the stars were bright enough to navigate by, even without a moon in the sky.


Our hosts told us there were enough beds for everyone, “but two people will have to sleep in the cabins across the pond.” The rhythm section—Bri and Kenny—drew the short straws. “Are there any snakes around here?” asked Bri with a nervous giggle, staring at his dwarfed stick.
“Sure are,” said Mike, “Copperheads. Big ones.” Brian’s face went white, his lips hung limply under his nose like wet noodles. Brian and Kenny insisted on a second beer before agreeing to let us drive them across the pond over to their accommodations.

I’ll never forget the homesick look on their faces when they discovered there was no electricity out there. Mike handed them each a flashlight and told ‘um not to make any sudden moves if they heard a bear.
As we slowly pulled away on the flatbed of Mike’s truck, I called out to them “You guys didn’t see Blair Witch Project, did you?”
“Not funny, Sally. Not funny,” shouted Kenny as the night closed around them and a mysterious bird sang a sad two-note song.